necron2.0
01-31-2008, 08:32 PM
COMMENT: The following does not reflect any part of my life or anything related to me or my family. It is purely an observation I've made.
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You can hire someone to cook for you, lavish them with bonuses (a gift by any name), praise their skills and even choose them to be the exclusive provider of all your culinary needs, and nobody will complain. In fact, your wife or girlfriend may even be thrilled.
You can hire someone to clean for you, pay them handsomely for their handiwork, sing their praises to everyone you know and choose them to be the sole provider of this hygienic service, and nobody will think twice about it. Indeed, your significant other will probably be ecstatic, assuming they help you clean at all.
You can pay someone to raise your children, reward them generously for their vital care, give them glowing recommendations and even install them as a permanent member of your household, and people will credit YOU as being a thoughtful, responsible parent. Your spouse would no doubt appreciate the aid a good nanny can provide.
You can go to someone for counseling (and you will pay through the nose). You can greatly appreciate the guidance and comfort they provide, even making visits to them a routine part of your life. People won't think ill of you. In fact, many may think you wise, and your family would even be proud that you're trying to "keep it together."
You can hire someone to manage your money for you (and again, you will pay them well). You can boast of how well off you are because of them, and completely relinquish all your financial responsibilities into their care. People won't even bat an eye. Your spouse may even comment to her friends about how shrewd you are.
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One service, you are not allowed to outsource. Wars are repeatedly fought over it. Crimes are predicated upon it. Families are destroyed where it's found wanting - children suffering as an outcome. Science has proven the medical necessity of it, with those who get it living longer and more mentally stable lives, while those without it die younger, suffering all the mental damages associated with high stress.
Sex.
It is at the core of any pair bonding relationship. It is essential to healthy living. The Church has long recognized it as one of the central duties of both a man and a woman to each other - something each has a right to, not just for the sake of reproduction, but also to keep the spouse free of sin. The early Church even recognized the industry of sex as being a "necessary evil" - something ultimately vital for protecting the sanctity of womanhood as a whole.
Yet, if your significant other cannot or will not provide for your basic needs, it is taboo in today's society to seek it elsewhere. If you pay a professional sex provider, you're seen as depraved (moreover, the laws are pointedly designed to keep it as unsafe a practice as possible). Should you seek an "unprofessional" sex provider (i.e. a mistress), you're seen as a cad and/or abusive. Either way, your negligent spouse will not be pleased, even though you've freed them of their obligations. You cannot even comment on someone's obvious skills in this area without being called sexist.
I find it comical that you can replace your spouse with surrogates in every way and in every respect, and still be thought of as a good provider. Replace them in the one way, however, and you're the lowest form of pariah.
Ah, this world is a comical place indeed.
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[EDIT: Also, I should stress that I'm not advocating any particular life style, nor am I suggesting any course of action. It just struck me as odd all of a sudden how we can replace our spouses with paid surrogates in every and all conceivable ways, and yet only in the one area is it seen as malicious or immoral, particularly given the overt hedonism rampant in society today.]
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You can hire someone to cook for you, lavish them with bonuses (a gift by any name), praise their skills and even choose them to be the exclusive provider of all your culinary needs, and nobody will complain. In fact, your wife or girlfriend may even be thrilled.
You can hire someone to clean for you, pay them handsomely for their handiwork, sing their praises to everyone you know and choose them to be the sole provider of this hygienic service, and nobody will think twice about it. Indeed, your significant other will probably be ecstatic, assuming they help you clean at all.
You can pay someone to raise your children, reward them generously for their vital care, give them glowing recommendations and even install them as a permanent member of your household, and people will credit YOU as being a thoughtful, responsible parent. Your spouse would no doubt appreciate the aid a good nanny can provide.
You can go to someone for counseling (and you will pay through the nose). You can greatly appreciate the guidance and comfort they provide, even making visits to them a routine part of your life. People won't think ill of you. In fact, many may think you wise, and your family would even be proud that you're trying to "keep it together."
You can hire someone to manage your money for you (and again, you will pay them well). You can boast of how well off you are because of them, and completely relinquish all your financial responsibilities into their care. People won't even bat an eye. Your spouse may even comment to her friends about how shrewd you are.
.
.
.
One service, you are not allowed to outsource. Wars are repeatedly fought over it. Crimes are predicated upon it. Families are destroyed where it's found wanting - children suffering as an outcome. Science has proven the medical necessity of it, with those who get it living longer and more mentally stable lives, while those without it die younger, suffering all the mental damages associated with high stress.
Sex.
It is at the core of any pair bonding relationship. It is essential to healthy living. The Church has long recognized it as one of the central duties of both a man and a woman to each other - something each has a right to, not just for the sake of reproduction, but also to keep the spouse free of sin. The early Church even recognized the industry of sex as being a "necessary evil" - something ultimately vital for protecting the sanctity of womanhood as a whole.
Yet, if your significant other cannot or will not provide for your basic needs, it is taboo in today's society to seek it elsewhere. If you pay a professional sex provider, you're seen as depraved (moreover, the laws are pointedly designed to keep it as unsafe a practice as possible). Should you seek an "unprofessional" sex provider (i.e. a mistress), you're seen as a cad and/or abusive. Either way, your negligent spouse will not be pleased, even though you've freed them of their obligations. You cannot even comment on someone's obvious skills in this area without being called sexist.
I find it comical that you can replace your spouse with surrogates in every way and in every respect, and still be thought of as a good provider. Replace them in the one way, however, and you're the lowest form of pariah.
Ah, this world is a comical place indeed.
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[EDIT: Also, I should stress that I'm not advocating any particular life style, nor am I suggesting any course of action. It just struck me as odd all of a sudden how we can replace our spouses with paid surrogates in every and all conceivable ways, and yet only in the one area is it seen as malicious or immoral, particularly given the overt hedonism rampant in society today.]